Episode 36

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16th Sep 2025

36. Why Avoidance Is Silently Killing Your Culture

Episode 36: Why Avoidance Is Silently Killing Your Culture

Episode 10 in the series, The Founder’s Blind Spot

Silence isn’t always wisdom. Sometimes it’s avoidance. And when leaders mistake avoidance for patience or kindness, they unintentionally teach their teams that missed deadlines, sloppy work, or toxic behavior are acceptable. That’s how culture erodes—not with a loud collapse, but with quiet compromise.

In this episode, James unpacks why avoidance spreads faster than accountability, and why silence teaches louder than any values statement on the wall. Drawing from How Google Works and the famous “These Ads Suck” story, he shows how clarity from leaders creates ownership, while avoidance kills it.

This episode is for founders who:

  • Struggle to know when to speak up vs. when to hold back.
  • Want to stop tolerating behaviors that silently undermine culture.
  • Need a clear example of how leadership clarity produces ownership.

What you’ll take away:

  • Silence itself isn’t the problem — avoidance is.
  • Every unaddressed behavior sets a precedent and lowers the standard.
  • Top performers lose trust fastest when leaders avoid.
  • Clarity sparks ownership — avoidance kills it.

Reflection Questions:

  • What’s one recent moment when you stayed silent because you didn’t want conflict? What did that teach your team more than your words ever could?
  • Who on your team went the extra mile this week — and who didn’t? Did your silence blur the difference?
  • What if every skipped conversation was a brick in the wall between you and your best people?

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Leadership in 5
Lead better in 5 minutes. Tactical insights for founders who want clarity, momentum, and a business that doesn’t break them.
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Leadership In 5 is the podcast for founders and executives who are done with vague advice and tired of hearing “just communicate better” like it’s a strategy.

I’m James Mayhew. I’ve served as Chief Culture Officer, coached hundreds of leaders, and made the thousand-plus execution mistakes so you don’t have to. I work with high-growth companies that are scaling fast — but who still want to lead with values, not ego.

Each episode delivers one sharp insight you can act on. You’ll hear practical guidance built on clarity, not charisma. No theory. No fluff. Just real leadership tools that work in real companies with real people.

This show exists to help you stop over-functioning, stop repeating yourself, and stop holding it all together just to keep the wheels turning. You deserve a business that works without breaking you.

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James Mayhew

James R. Mayhew is a leadership coach and strategic advisor to founders and executives building fast-growth, values-driven companies. He created the IDP Way, a leadership system grounded in integrity, dignity, and prosperity. James helps leaders align people, purpose, and performance so their business can scale with clarity, not chaos.

He’s served as Chief Culture Officer, coached hundreds of leaders, and built execution systems that actually work.